Dear Dr. June: My boyfriend and I were fighting because I want to wait to have sex and he doesnít. We ended up breaking up over it. Then around my birthday, he took me out and we got back together again except we still have the same problem. Itís been almost a year, so do you think I should give in and be with him?
ó Waiting in New York
Dear Waiting: First of all, if you want to wait, itís your body, so you are wise to protect it. Thatís smart. Second, you probably have your reasons for waiting. Maybe your religion wants you to wait until marriage, so follow what you know is right. Lastly, what is this ďgive inĒ matter? A relationship involves more than one person. Sure, sometimes he gives in a bit and sometimes you give in a bit as a compromise within the relationship. However, starting a sexual relationship is a much bigger step than choosing the color of paint on the walls. My answer is donít have sex with him until you are comfortable being in a relationship with him.
Dear Dr. June: Do you think I should go to college or pursue my dream of working in the theater? My parents have a college fund so I feel so guilty. Itís not that I donít want to go to college, but Iíve always loved the theater so I donít want that to pass me by. I donít know what to do.
ó Choices in Tampa, Florida
Dear Choices: You can do both. Thatís right, you can go to college while still pursuing your dream of theater. All you have to do is pick a school where you can major in theater. You will experience all aspects of production and may even meet people in the industry. You can still go on auditions. Some professionals in the business and the media sometimes even come to the performances. Now go chase your dream while getting your education.
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